5 Essential Mindful Habits of a Mama of Four

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Last Updated on September 25, 2021 by melissanreynolds

Some easy mindful habits have really been saving my sanity amongst sleep deprivation, baby reflux, three busy boys, a still in training puppy, and life. I’ll admit, transitioning to four kids has been rough.

We don’t seem to get those newborns that are sleepy or give you a few weeks of easy nap times. It’s straight to the sleep struggle.

If your baby doesn’t seem to settle, be like those you read about or respond to those lists of how to settle- you are not alone!

Whether you have children or not, these easy mindful habits can help you too.

5 easy mindful habits helping me cope as a mama with four small children

I still can’t believe I am a mama of four. Or how hard it has been, but reflux is never an easy addition to the newborn period. Especially when you have pre-existing health issues in the mix.

So how am I coping? With these 5 essential mindful self-care habits…

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Mindful breathing

At first (after being pregnant), I was so grateful to be able to take a full breath it was second nature to revel in just breathing. Now, each day, I purposely take a moment to sink into my breath. Noticing how it feels as my lungs fill, the expansion. Then the release as I exhale. That is really all you need to do to “do” mindful breathing. Simply taking some deep breaths can calm the nervous system – and mine was on high alert after months of pain from my pelvis issues, delivery and the sleep deprivation that comes with the newborn territory.

You might like my relaxing breathing practice here, or a 5 minute practice here.

Gratitude practice

When you’re exhausted, your baby has long crying jags and the pain you had managed is flaring it’s hard to stay positive. So I dug out my old gratitude Journal (does anyone else have several guided journals that they start and stop?). Simply writing three things each day that I am grateful for really helps me to count my blessings and remember the good stuff. Like how well my body is coping, how much I love these boys, how thankful I am for my husband.

To make it super easy I created a printable for a daily three gratitude practice – you can grab that from my Etsy store.

Movement

Movement is really helpful for managing tricky muscles and general health and wellbeing. There are a great many yoga poses I cannot do due to my pelvis issues and I still must be quite careful in how I move, but I am so happy with what I can do again.

These are some of my favourites:

Cat and cow pose.
Neck stretches.
Child’s pose.

I made a little sequence of mountain, swaying mountain, twists and cactus arms.

Just a few minutes here and there is really helping to counteract the tension caused by holding a baby nearly constantly. I’m doing everything very mindfully and checking in with myself because it’s been several long months of near immobility plus labour is pretty hard on the body. Its been through some things!

Notice nature

In those early weeks when I was stuck inside, simply stepping out onto our deck, lifting my face to the sun and breathing was so grounding. I then began wandering through our yard when settling the baby in the wrap. Around four weeks postpartum I started walking (slowly, mindfully) to the end of our street and back. Paying attention to the natural world is calming.

If you would like to learn more yoga/mindful tips and tricks to help you in your journey then these posts may be of use to you:

Restorative Yoga and Fibromyalgia

The Ultimate Guide to Meditation and Fibromyalgia

My Favourite Five Bed Yoga Poses for Fibromyalgia

Meditation

I adore meditation, particularly guided meditations like Yoga Nidra. But when the baby is too fussy to allow me a proper rest with my earphones, heat pack and 30 uninterrupted minutes, self-guided meditations have been such a blessing.

Body scan meditation.
Yoga Nidra.
Breathing Meditation.

These are tasters that you can do for free using YouTube. If you would like to really get into using meditation (and yoga) for fibromyalgia, then do join us in Yoga for the Chronic Life virtual yoga studio.

Mindful Action

Choose one of these five to try today and see how it makes you feel.

So these are my five essential mindful self-care habits, what are yours?

5 essential mindful habits helping me cope as a mama with four small children and fibromyalgia. Woman sitting on doorstep meditating

3 thoughts on “5 Essential Mindful Habits of a Mama of Four

  1. The mindfulness you weave in your daily activities is very helpful. I really can’t imagine living with Fibromyalgia and having young children like you do. You are a rock star, Melissa. Thank you for sharing your journey and learnings. You help so many.

  2. All of your suggestions are so helpful. For my self the key is the second one you mention because if I am not feeling grateful the others fall by the wayside.

  3. Great list! I practice most of these, although I will admit I am not the greatest at meditation because it’s hard for me to pause long enough! I try to incorporate the meditation and breathing in with my yoga, so it only happens a couple days a week.

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